Alternative Dispute Resolution – Section 8 of the Family Law Act

submitted by Maritze Verdun-Jones Section 8 (1) of the Family Law Act imposes a duty on “family dispute resolution professionals” to canvass with a party involved in a family law dispute various types of family dispute resolution mechanisms available to them – in addition to informing the party of any known facilities or resources that may assist in resolving the … Read More

Care, Guidance and Protection – The Three Most Important Words

submitted by Gerry Bock Nasty Hurricane Andrew In August 1992, Hurricane Andrew went bananas. Like a drunk on too many Tequilas, he tore into South Florida with wind gusts of 175mph, redrawing the landscape. Approximately 600,000 homes and businesses bore the brunt of his menacing and destructive actions. By the time Andrew left, he had run up a tab of … Read More

Why Becoming Upset about Adversity is a Waste of Time

submitted by Gerry Bock Should you walk away when facing the impossible, or test yourself against the odds? Imagine you are living 3,000 years ago. Your job is to bring food to the battle front. You arrive to find the army quaking with fear, deadlocked in a standoff, afraid of being badly beaten by the opposition. The enemy is daring … Read More

What Can Divorcing Couples Learn from Philosophy

submitted by Art Kewin Uncoupling is a consequence of spousal conflict that generates even more conflict. Typically, conflicts about kids, money, property, debts, cash flow, taxation and financial security now and in retirement. How spouses deal with their conflicting interests and settlement goals will determine their chances – and costs – of successfully resolving their conflicts. Here is instructive wisdom … Read More

Can Mediation or Collaborative Law Ever Be A Waste Of Time, Energy and Money?

submitted by Art Kewin Many people wisely choose to avoid the hostility, delay, expense and uncertainty of litigation. They may also want more influence on the negotiating process itself and on the outcomes. Therefore, they hire a mediator or collaborative lawyers. However, sometimes that “smart money” choice leads to an astonishing waste of time, energy and money. How can that … Read More

Alcohol as a means of coping

submitted by Grace Morin / Morin Law Corporation One of the common ways that people cope with the stress of separation is the use of alcohol. This can be a quick fix to sad feelings, anxiety, depression . . . even helps after a tough day at work. However, is it hurting more than it is helping? Or is it … Read More

What will the Children Remember?

provided by Patricia Lalonde and Gerry Bock Long after the ink dries on the legal papers, and you have all moved on with your adult lives, what will the children do with the memories (good and not so great), that inevitably come out of conflict with the two most important people in their lives? How will the children close the … Read More

Parental Gatekeeping in Separation and Divorce

provided by Gerry Bock The Problem . . . In a contested separation and/or divorce, it is typically very challenging to keep the feelings and animosity towards the “other” party from negatively impacting the child or children involved. The negative feelings and chaotic adjustment often “spills over” into a lack of support for the parent/child relationship of the other parent, … Read More

Dealing with divorce or separation stress

provided by, Grace Morin / Morin Law Corporation Deciding to divorce or separate can wreak havoc on your emotional wellbeing. Add kids to the mix and the stress involved can even impact a child’s self esteem. Here’s how to help alleviate that stress — in yourself and in your children. The stress associated with separation and divorce, however amicable, is … Read More

Who needs conflict?!

submitted by Grace Morin / Morin Law Corporation Conflict is inevitable in life and many people go out of their way to avoid it. Typically, this is not helpful. Issues do not get resolved and people suffer in silence. Therefore, getting good at conflict as opposed to avoiding it should be the goal. As people we have differing views, opinions … Read More